These Sweet, Flirty & Confident Texts Will Help You Keep the Spark Alive With Your Long-Distance Lover
I'm shy.
Really shy.
I know people won't believe me when I say that, because I've found myself in some pretty wild situations. But when you're in a long-distance relationship, being shy just doesn't fly.
If you want to keep your partner's attention until you're able to be together again, being a little bold and playful is the key to keeping the flames burning. If you're new to flirty texting with your long-distance love, don't worry. We've got you covered. Just copy a few of these lines, send them off, and see what happens.
So if you're like me, my idea of being a smooth, confident texter goes something like this:
"What are you doing?
I'm in bed.
Send me a pic.
Well, it's pretty dark.
Show me anyway!
Um... okay."
Yeah. That's me. Suzy the Seductress. Pro-level smooth, right? Not exactly.
I needed some help, so I called everyone I know for advice ("asking for a friend," obviously) and came up with a list of texts, from sweet to spicy, to help you with a little "phone flirtation."
Here are a few ideas for conversation starters. Trust me, once he reads these, the rest is easy, sis. Just go with the flow.
Ps, After you text and he calls you (and he will call you), it helps if you speak softly, or let out a little purr or even a deep, throaty laugh if you're feeling silly. It gets me more in the mood and more confident to say these things aloud.
A few of my favorite, flirty texts for your long-distance love:
- I wish you were here right now because, mmm, am I missing the way you...
- Sorry, my phone dropped. I'm texting you one-handed.
- I had the strangest dream about you last night and couldn't stop thinking about it all day.
- I bought something cute to wear for you for when we're together again. Well, maybe cute isn't the right word.
- I keep replaying that trip we took together in my head. Especially that one night...
- Have you ever had a dream about me? I had a really spicy one of you last night.
- What's your idea of the perfect night together? I want to tell you mine...
- If you could plan anything for when we're reunited, what would it be?
- I was so bored at work today, I caught myself daydreaming about you the whole time. At one point I had to take a break and go to the ladies' room.
- I can't wait to show you how much I've missed you. I've got a surprise for you.
- What's a fantasy you've always wanted to try?
- I've got a little secret I've never told anybody. Want to hear it?
- I think about you more than I probably should, and in ways I should not admit.
Don't have anyone to try these on yet? Don't worry, we've got some ideas to help you find genuine guys here and here, whether you want to hang out, have fun, or fall in love!
A quick, important note before you get too spicy
Here's the thing. Most long-distance relationships are exactly what they look like: two people who found each other despite the distance, genuinely falling for one another. That's most of you reading this, and it's something to celebrate, not be suspicious of.
But because scammers do specifically target women in long-distance and cross-border relationships, there's one habit worth keeping no matter how much you trust him. Don't send nude photos or videos, even to someone you're sure is the real deal.
Here's why that matters, even in a genuine relationship:
- If a scammer ever did get access to those images (a hacked account, a borrowed phone, a fake profile using stolen photos), they can use them for blackmail. That means threatening to send them to your family, friends, or post them online unless you pay up. It's called sextortion, and it's becoming more and more common in long-distance relationships.
- A genuine partner who respects you won't pressure you to send anything you're not comfortable with, or guilt you for saying no.
- Flirty, playful texts (like the ones above) let you keep the spark alive without ever creating something that could be used against you.
If you ever do get a threat like this, please know you're not alone, and it's not your fault. There are resources built specifically to help. The FBI's IC3 and the Cyber Civil Rights Initiative both handle sextortion cases.
Still unsure if your guy is really in love with you? Take the "Love Audit", the "Catfish Checklist", or "Is He a Romance Scammer?" quiz here. And be sure to check out our guides, e-books, and Resources here.
Do you have a favorite flirty line, or a green flag that reassured you your long-distance love was the real deal? Tell me in the comments below; I love hearing your stories!
From April's guides
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Still figuring out what's really going on?
Take the Catfish Checklist or the Visa Audit to get a clearer picture.
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Find trusted flights, stays, and travel insurance on my Resources page, or get my Amazon bestseller.
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