Sexy Winter in NYC Dream Date Wishlist

I love writing articles on fun, romantic dates. But this year, I felt a bit bored and restless with the list of activities I came up with recently. 

That could possibly be due to the fact that I am single and it has been far too long since I have had a partner to be romantic with. 

Or maybe it’s because it takes a lot to get me turned on when my ass is freezing cold since I am definitely a beach bum baby and the latest article I wrote was about romantic dates in NYC during the winter. 

I love the idea of having a partner I can stroll hand in hand with, looking deeply into each other’s eyes in front of a fireplace. That’s cute. But I do not have anyone special in my life currently. 

I’ve been single for a long time, and dating when you’re just getting to know somebody and dating when you’re in a loving relationship can be dramatically different.  

Of course, I would love to meet an old-fashioned, chivalrous alpha male who opens the car door, brings flowers on a first date, and whispers that he would love it if I wore a red dress for him on our date, I would be thrilled. If he chose River Cafe under the Brooklyn Bridge, I would probably marry that mofo. 

Yes, romantic dates are sweet. But I also love a man who is also a bit edgy. A man who would plan a date that is slightly scandalous and unusual; unique. 

For couples, even if they’re meeting for the first time, it can help to add intimacy and fun to a relationship to try something different. 

I don’t mean I want a man to take me to a strip club or a swingers club; especially not on a first date!  But if a man took me to a burlesque show the first time we met, he just might be my soul mate. 

Whether it’s wildly scandalous, or slightly sexy in a more subtle, sensuous way, I love a unique performance, event, or show. 

Perhaps it’s because this pandemic has really *ed up my s*x life (not that I had a s*ex life before the pandemic, either, but I sound cooler if I blame it on the ‘Rona) that I am craving something a bit spicier, more fun than a typical “let’s meet up at Starbucks and sit awkwardly in silence underneath bright, fluorescent lights as we avoid eye contact” meet and greet. 

If I’m going to dinner with a man, a favorite Japanese spot for sushi can be absolutely lovely. But wouldn’t it be amazing to go to Casa la Femme where you and your partner can dine in a private tent, or you can watch a hot belly dancer moving and swaying and gyrating her hips as she glides past you?

You can meet up for drinks at a corner bar in your neighborhood. Or, you could cuddle under a blanket sipping hot toddies or a peppermint holiday concoction in an igloo on the roof of the famous 230 Fifth Avenue nightclub. 

It’s important to keep in mind that what may be considered sexy or romantic to one person may not be to another, and it’s important to respect your partner’s boundaries and preferences.  

I would absolutely fall madly in love if a man I’m going on a first date with decided he wanted to dress in costume and go with me to a Renaissance Faire as my breasts are popping out over a tight corset!

Or perhaps we might go to a House of Yes! Cabaret show. Or, imagine meeting for the first time in a country neither of us has ever been to before to go scuba diving?!

Yes, I am aware that not everyone is that crazy.  Alas, I must resign myself to getting all dressed up in a super sexy (but not slutty) form-fitting dress and heels and meeting for dinner.

But a girl can dream! So, I came up with a fabulous list of sexy dream dates I would go crazy for.

These are the type of dates that I would be thrilled to go on with the right man. But the right man for me would be one creative enough to choose something a bit different, a bit daring, a bit sexy. Dinner is lovely, (and there are some cool restaurant t ideas on this list.)

Some of these more unusual activities (like The Museum of Sex, an erotic poetry event, or an outdoor film and picnic in the park) just take a bit more planning. But these are the kind of dates that make it impossible for other men to compete with.  

Each year I do post an article on super fun, romantic, (and sometimes sexy) date ideas in NYC, but that list is for activities you can do during the warmer months. For this post, I searched date activities you can do during the winter.

I hope you are like me and willing to try something a little different. If you do go on a sexy date, let me know in the comments below!

Sexy Winter Dream Date in NYC Wishlist:

Attend a burlesque show. Burlesque shows often feature sultry performances that can be sexy and tantalizing. Remember to always respect your partner’s boundaries and comfort level, and make sure to get consent before trying any new activities.   

Sultry Soiree Jan 14 

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/sultry-soiree-tickets-413749825867

Performance at House of Yes!  Free Amateur Burlesque Night Wed, Jan 18, 7:00 PM House of Yes  

https://www.houseofyes.org/

Dinner and AirOtic Soiree Cabaret  

https://feverup.com/m/119929

Burlesque Nutcracker Rouge 

https://companyxiv.com/

Dinner Theater Queen of the NIght 

https://www.timeout.com/newyork/theater/queen-of-the-night

Burlesque Brunch Duane Park 

https://www.duaneparknyc.com/

Sexomatic Burlesque SHow 

https://www.duaneparknyc.com/sexomatic

New Year’s Day Dinner Cruises 

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/new-years-day-dinner-cruise-2023-tickets-480326999987

https://libertycruise.nyc/events/new-years-day-dinner-nyc-cruise

https://www.cityexperiences.com/new-york/city-cruises/bateaux-dinner-cruise/

Dinner Theater/ Film Babylon 

https://www.ipic.com/new-york-city-ny-fulton-market/movies/session/67338

Santa’s Secret Speakeasy 

https://secretnyc.co/santa-secret-holiday-experience/

Rooftop Ice Skating 

https://secretnyc.co/this-brand-new-rooftop-ice-rink-offers-a-stunning-view-of-the-manhattan-skyline/

Dinner at Frosty’s Christmas Bar 

https://secretnyc.co/frostys-christmas-pop-up-bar-nyc/

Breakfast at Tiffany’s Blue Box Café 

https://www.tiffany.com/blue-box-cafe/

Dinner in a Yurt at The Garden 

https://www.standardhotels.com/new-york/features/The-Garden-East-Village-Restaurant

Casa la Femme Dinner & Belly Dance Show 

https://www.casalafemmeny.com/

Sweetest Hangover Sundays at 6pm 

https://www.duaneparknyc.com/sweetest-hangover

Most Romantic Restaurants in NYC 

https://www.timeout.com/newyork/restaurants/the-most-romantic-restaurants-in-nyc

Rooftop Teardrop Igloos with Fireplace 

https://secretnyc.co/somewhere-nowhere-igloo-experience-nyc/

Gage & Tollner 

Restaurant Downtown Brooklyn 

 One if by Land, Two if by Sea 

Seafood 

Le Pavillon 

Fancy-schmancy French restaurant 

Daniel 

World-class restaurant with over-the-top service, luxurious food 

Lilia 

Williamsburg private yurt tent dining 

Caribbean Cruise Bermuda/Bahamas 9 days $449 

https://www.ncl.com/cruises/GEM9NYCWRFNASNPIPCVNYC/schedule?itineraryCode=GEM9NYCWRFNASNPIPCVNYC&dclid=CjkKEQiAzKqdBhDUzbWx7a-kycEBEiQATnYCAE_Q9Y8S3bXWc8rXZxlvbjCcJ7B2jRvhbeSVINKPuZnw_wcB

Lightscape Brooklyn Botanic Garden 

https://www.bbg.org/lightscape

The Hamptons in Winter 

https://www.seenbyamy.com/things-to-do-in-the-hamptons-in-winter/#:~:text=Winter%20is%20a%20great%20time,hotel%20rates%20are%20relatively%20inexpensive.

Atlantic City in Winter 

https://guidetophilly.com/things-to-do-in-atlantic-city-in-winter/

Underground Spa in Soho 

https://beaire.com/en/aire-ancient-baths-newyork

NYC Glamping  

https://www.collectiveretreats.com/governors-island/

https://www.nycglamping.com/

Harry Potter Forbidden Forrest 

https://hpforbiddenforestexperience.com/westchester/?utm_source=secretnyc&utm_medium=post&utm_campaign=117678_nyc&utm_content=harry-potter-forbidden-forest-experience-ny&utm_term=cta2

Medieval Times 

https://www.medievaltimes.com/

Winter Hot Air Balloon Rides 

Central Park Annual Winter Jam  

Santa’s Secret Sex Show 

https://santassecret.co/?utm_source=secretnyc&utm_medium=post&utm_campaign=120463_nyc&utm_content=nyc-winter-bucket-list&utm_term=cta1

Winter Wonderland Rooftops 

• The Pink Winter Lodge: Frosted Edition at Magic Hour, Midtown 
• Ophelia Lounge, Midtown East 
• SERRA by Birreria (Eataly’s Rooftop), Flatiron 

Here’s a list of top favorite spots for dates in NYC

Rolf’s Festive German Restaurant 

Home

Scandinavian-Inspired Outdoor Spa In Williamsburg 

Swing Dance Lessons 

https://www.timeout.com/newyork/things-to-do/best-swing-dancing-classes-in-nyc

https://www.brooklynswings.com/

Erotic Poetry Night Sat, Jan 28, 8:00 PM Queens, NY 

The Hotline LIVE – Erotic Poetry Night: A Speak Easy Experience 

Couple’s Massage Package Brooklyn  

https://www.cynergyspa.com/

Rose Room Cabaret 

https://www.theroseroomnyc.com/

JFK Airport 

Why not fly someplace neither of you has ever been to for dinner? Better yet; why not meet there instead? You never know if dinner could turn into a weekend getaway in a treehouse in a jungle. 

Haha, I know this is a really bizarre type of first date, but this is my “dream date wishlist” and I am obsessed with travel and adventure the way Honey BooBoo loves tiaras. 

What are some crazy, sexy dates you have been on with your lover? Please comment below!